This is for the executive, entrepreneur, employee, or anyone, who at the end of the day, is drained, unhappy, snapping at home and/or retreating nightly in front of the TV because it’s too painful to feel, as you drown out that question, “Is this all there is?”
Somewhere you resigned yourself to the apathy of the status quo. I really wish, a strong, “Snap out of it!” was the answer. It’s not.
Here’s a quick and reflective 5-step exercise you can do after you slowly back away from the television set.
1) Get a piece a paper and write, really big, "It is NOT too late.”
And then, like some of us school day rebels so vividly remember, write 50 times, “it is not too Late, it is not too late, it is not too late.”
So, too late for what?
Before I answer that question, let’s look at a few things you thought were going to be the answer to your contentment and pleasure – all the things that you thought were going to be your answer: more money, the right partner, the prestigious title within the prestigious company, inside the very prestigious building.
Nope, there’s still that disappointment.
2) Stay with the “It is NOT too late” paper and then write “To,” “It’s NOT late to:”
It could be as light as, to get a dog or as big as, putting an end to child abuse. Or, as simple as BE HAPPY. Just start writing, pen to paper without lifting your hand. Time it. Give yourself 7 minutes. Don’t edit. Just write. There may twenty items – there may be two.
The question you keep asking yourself is “What else? What else? What else?” And, this doesn’t have to be a To Do List. It could be a change in heart, i.e. It’s not too late to forgive my ex or let go of that 10-year resentment.
Or, maybe a shift in thinking, i.e. it’s really no fun being a perfectionist – it’ time to smile more at myself when I screw up OR think I screwed up. Or, it’s not too late to start smiling more, period and see how I can make other people’s lives a little happier.
3) This is not the end-all/be-all list.
This is simply the first things that came to your head in the 7-minute time-frame. Look closely at this inventory – take 10 minutes and ask yourself these questions:
4) Now, take the It’s Not Too Late To List, and prioritize it.
This is your life, and I won’t dare tell you how to rank what’s the most important thing for you right now on the list. It may be the easiest. You know that getting a win under your belt will be a good incentive to move to the next one. OR, it may be the most challenging, in which case you can give yourself 15 minutes a day or three hours a week to play with it.
5) You’re ready to start a short plan of action.
Please note, you may have blocks, fear or resistance to starting any action, even the smallest and they may be due to something that someone said to you, an incident when you made a mistake and it became, “I’m a failure when I do this…” I see this all the time with my clients.
Some of us, simply can’t do this work alone. If we try one more list…!!!! Therefore, finding a coach that understands AND supports you while asking unexpected, and sometimes uncomfortable questions, is so important. I see it all the time – the results are sustainable.
So, whether you do this list alone, or with someone, please do it. The rewards are so great. Happiness and true contentment are truly – one step away. It’s just not too late!
Once upon a time, there was a year dominated by turmoil – where groups were pit against groups and fear was being instilled everywhere – anti-immigrants against immigrants, cops against blacks – unfortunately the list is endless.
Then came an event that shook the world from China to Chile to Poughkeepsie and beyond. People from all walks of life put fear and the election on hold and bonded while they sat in front of their TV or radio.
You’re a business owner, HR executive, CEO, COO, manager, etc. and you’re completely perplexed on how you can stop this revolving door of millennials coming in and going out of your business.
You’ve supplied the kitchen, with 27 different cereals, nut mixes, candy bars, protein drinks and gluten free whatever. In fact the boardroom has been completely transformed and the only reason why you still call it “The Boardroom” is because of the wide array of board games millennials can play on their breaks. (Yes, you did your homework; according to The GBrief , the website ALL about millennials, “they love their board games” The GBrief – millennials and their board games) And still you haven’t found a way to get them to stay.
How to identify if you really have a customer-centric business.
I’m sure if I was to call 50 companies right now and ask if they were a customer-centric business, they would all say “yes.” Isn’t that why we’re all in business – to be of service to our customers? The happier (we’ll define happy in a future article) they are the more business we have. On paper,yes. In the board room, maybe. In your cubicles, not quite.
Now’s the time to be jolly and generous with our words.
“You’re great!” “Happy you’re on the team!” “Good work this year” Waiting until you hand someone their bonus check (you are giving one, right?) or slur some kind word at the Holiday Party, is not going to cut it. It’s empty and insincere. It won’t endear me to be vested in you or your goals. That said, if you choose to follow a few simple truths and a couple of rules, the organization and you the leader, will reap rewards beyond those you are sharing.
Let’s begin with the premise that things are always changing.
So, you’ve got an idea that you think may solve the challenges of your department. Or you’ve got something in your gut that says write the book. Or maybe your hand and your heart wants you to finally pick up the canvas or guitar that’s sitting in the back of your closet.
And oh, how you fantasize about how your little idea propelled big profits for your organization. And those luscious daydreams of how your book, your writing, touched people enough to tell all their friends about it. And no doubt about it, once you pull out the canvas and brush, the art will flow and your kids will fight about who gets to hang that gem in their room. All so perfect.